Standout as a man

Many men have lost their identity and are out of touch with their authentic selves. Many men are confused . They are spending their days doing what they think they “should” be doing based on stereotypes and other people’s opinions on what being a man is.To be a better man you need to understand yourself and get to know who you really are. You can do this by exploring your inner world. Once a man became aware at this he can embrace positive masculine traits to improve his life. There is no right and wrong way to be a better man, it’s about embracing who you are and bringing out the masculine characteristics that lie latent inside of you.

Men control their world in a hierarchical system.This system fosters the idea that there is one person at the top and in charge. The hierarchical system is based on a competition which is all about being better and improvement.Men rule this world with the masculine traits of competition, power, and control.Men and masculine traits are not evil by design but men have this at the root of their belief system.

Masculine Role Models

Your father and any other adult males you knew in your early years are your first role models. From them you developed a sense of how to behave and the way to “be”. It’s likely that your early role models were themselves struggling to understand their masculinity and the typical male behaviours you picked up are not necessarily correct or the best choice to be made.

Later in life male role models are often famous macho movie characters and sportsmen. From these role models men learn to act in typical masculine ways.

Here is a short typical list ;

  • Watch sport
  • Drink alcohol
  • Fix things
  • Build things
  • Powerful emotion
  • Be competitive
  • Work hard
  • Wear certain clothes
  • Work hard irrespective of pleasure or return
  • Behave in a certain way towards women

The problem is that many men don’t fit the typical stereo type of what a man is and they certainly don’t want to behave in all of the ways listed above.

When you behave like a typical male is “supposed” to behave. When you do the things that you do, based on someone else’s opinion of being a man, then you are not being true to yourself. Behaving differently to your core identity leads to insecurity in regard to your masculinity.When you behave this way it is your attempt to stop other males questioning your masculinity. What happens however is that unless you have a strong sense of self, then you yourself question your masculinity. You end up doing what you “should” instead of what you want and this is bad for your soul.

Men who behave in an exaggerated masculine way are often covering weakness and vulnerability.Remember this is an individual thing and it’s very difficult for you to look at someone else and make a judgement call on their behaviour without an understanding of the thoughts that led them there.

Many men feel alone and isolated from their peers. They have friendships that are more like acquaintances as a result of competition. This masculine trait used in a negative way, common with men, means that each man is continually competing against other men. This leads to the male population being alone. Not being able to rely on one another as they see each and every other male as a competitor for jobs, status and women.

Men are often unable to display vulnerability, admit mistakes and are pretending to be far more “manly” than they really feel. This has taught men to cover up certain traits that show vulnerability or do not fit stereotypical male traits from the fear that they will be labelled “a girl”. In this situation hiding your vulnerabilities from another may be the best course of action but you may have been made to feel as if there is something wrong with you because you have feelings and emotions. You see other men as being tougher and without this perceived handicap. You end up blocking the faculty of feeling and this is extremely dangerous to you as a human being. It leads to loss of direction in life, disconnection to your internal world and if not corrected, depression.

By following the male crowd and ignoring your true self you will lose your identity as a man. You need to look internally and embrace who you really are.You have both masculine and feminine traits within you and it’s important to balance the two. 


Here are
some positive masculine traits that will make you a better man,

  • Action
  • Ambition
  • Progress, transformation and growth
  • Direction
  • Discipline
  • Confidence
  • Concentration and focus
  • Responsibility
  • Strength
  • Being a father
  • Encouragement which is positive forward movement
  • Intellect
  • Material abundance

These are all great masculine qualities and to be a better man you need to search within and find these types of qualities and bring them out into the world in a practical way. Look at the list of positive masculine traits above. Don’t try to fit yourself to this list. Look at which positive masculine traits you have. Perhaps you can see all of these traits in you – perhaps only one? How can you express these traits and move away from the negative traits.

Here’s an example for the trait – action

  • Can you create action in a team environment without creating competition within your team?

To find your authentic self you need to look internally and focus on your true desires irrespective of what they are and how they fit into your community’s accepted idea of what’s normal for a male.

You do this by examining and questioning your behaviour when it comes to typical masculine things. Have a look at something masculine that you do and explore and question why you do it? This will lead to you discovering what you really like and lead you to be your authentic self.

Here are the steps you need to do to look internally and get to know yourself. They need to be done constantly until they become habit;

1. You need to first raise your energy vibration.This is done by changing your negative inputs to positive. Associate with positive people,  laugh, getting closer to the nature , music, exercise and meditation. One of the most powerful ways of getting a positive feeling flowing through you is being grateful. This is an attitude and on its own can completely change your life.

2. You need to learn and practice the ability to be present.

3. You need to learn and practice the ability to stand apart from your thought process and see what your thoughts actually are.

4. Once you have practiced and gained strength in the first two steps – you will be able to pinpoint the thoughts that occur as they lead to an emotion. An emotional situation is often complicated and filled with multiple lines of thinking and you need to tackle each one individually.

5. You need to dissolve your emotional blocks around each negative situation.

6. On an individual event basis once relief has been achieved, you can then create action and change. Change becomes easier because you have changed an underlying belief by exposing and facing a fear.

I can lead you through this process for some amazing results.

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Who are you ?

 It may seem like a weird straightforward question. Most would answer by giving their name without giving it to much thought. However, on a deeper reflection, do you really understand who you are ?

The majority of people in the world today are trying very hard to conform to what someone else wants them to be. It happens at many levels. For instance, television bombards us with images of how we should look, talk and dress, what we should eat and drink, what car we should drive and even what kind of person we should marry. We look around us for things that will help us define who we are. In-fact the majority of people have no sense of identity apart from the clothes they wear, the car they drive, where they live, who they are married to and so on. I think its time for you to redefine who you are today.

If we had to strip you of everything you own and leave you on some island away from everything you think defines you, would you still have a clear sense of who you are? So i will ask you again ; Who are you?

Discover the real you 

Some would think of themselves in terms of their body. The image of their face and body defines who they are. If we were to remove you from your body, would you still know who you are? It sounds weird, I know, but understand that man is a spirit; he lives in a body and has a soul. Your body is simply a means of expressing yourself and interacting with your physical environment.

So your body is not really who you are. At the core of it, you are more than that. In-fact that is why it is so hard for people to fully understand and appreciate who they are. Who you are cannot be seen, touched, heard or tasted. 

So who are  you really ?

The concept of self in the true form is something beyond our physical bodies and senses. We are super complex beings. We cannot be defined by the things around us, but by the things within us. 

Discover your true identity

Our true identity, lies within us, not outside of us. We should define who we are based on  our values, principles and beliefs. It’s okay to have material things and all, but they should not be what define who you are. They are just things that are there to make our lifes easier. 

Discover the real you – the answer lies within

Look within yourself, not without. Most of us go almost all the way through life as complete strangers to ourselves.It may seem like an overstatement, but it is so. Many lack an understanding of who they are, without which they are unable to know what they care capable of achieving in life. In the days of slavery in Europe and America this was well understood. Black people were forced to change their names to Western names so they would not remember who they really were. Have you forgotten who you are ? Furthermore, they were banned from knowing how to read or write. That should make the lights flash in someone’s head. The reason this was done was that their masters knew that if they knew how to read they would discover many things, not only about the world around them, but about themselves. Their minds would be stretched to new levels of understanding.

Choose not to live in ignorance about who you are and what you can do. Decide today to discover more about yourself and to start on the journey of self discovery. My best recommendation – read ! Without it, you may never know who you really are.Get so much knowledge you can and live it.

The truth

The most powerful moment in you life is right now.

Yeah

Right now !

In this moment you are powerful

You have it all

Right now !

and thats the reason you can do whatever you want

Right now

No one can stop you.

There are no limitation

Has never been,and will never be.

Since the day you was born you was powerful and still are.

Lets go back

So if you was born perfect

If you was born with now limitation

Something must gone wrong on the way.

Don’t you agree ?

Theres a gap

Or do you live out your maximum potential today ?

What is your potential ?

Do you know ?

Who told you that you wasn’t perfect ?

Who told you that ?

Why did you listen ?

Who told you that you must accept everything every body tells you ?

Who ?

Is that not a lie ?

Because you don’t need to.

You are powerful

Get yourself a great compass

1.  SET GOALS FOR THE RIGHT REASON

The first step to setting goals that will bring you an awesome life is to setting goals that makes you excited every day.

Most goals are about a destination. “I want a million dollars.” “I want enlightenment.” “I want a truck.”

2. CHOOSE A GOAL TO CREATE A JOURNEY

Think about setting goals as a life direction. Figure out the things that will create a fun, meaningful, compelling  excited journey.

Ask yourself:

  1. How do I want to spend my life ?
  2. How do i want to spend my time ?
  3. What daily activities will make me want to jump out of bed?
  4. Who can i hang out with,talk with,collaborate with and do this journey with ?

Now set your goal. Choose one that will create the journey you just designed.

In fact, the specific goal you set ,it’s simply setting a direction for the life that you want. With the right journey, it won’t even matter if you reach your goal.

3. IF THE GOAL DOESN’T WORK, CHANGE IT

As you can see, the goal is really just a way of making sure we take a meaningful journey. Some journeys are so much fun, people stay on them forever. Your goal is there to excite you, not to enslaves you. If the pursuit of the goal is draining your life, then why keep it? Then change your goal.

We adopt goals for one reason : to change our lives.  Choose the journey that for you would be awesome. The function for a goal ,is like a compass for your life .

And if you ever feel your direction needs changing, change your goal. Because it’s not about where you end up, it’s about the life you live every day. Your life is too precious to settle for less than a outstanding life.

Hey liar

Can you tell me whats going on in your life right now ? I don’t know.You know it .Before i even will look on you,i need you to come with nothing but the truth to me.The truth matter.Not just now ,but in every situation.

Why does people lie ? They lie because they think the lie will save them out of the pain.No one like pain. BUT , No lie will really ever save you from pain.In the moment ,you will feel like your saving your face and life but you don’t. Your just going deeper into your chaos.

Its time to stand up.Take responsibility back in your life.Its time to be a man.Time to be that woman.Its time to be what you are born to be.Not just blame other people when your life suck.When you don’t like whats going on in your life,Its you ,you that create everything.You create whats going on inside of you.You create all the negative feelings inside of you.Not me,not your friends or spouse.Its you !

Thats the fist step,if you want another direction and a better life.If you wanna get rid of all this negative emotions inside of you.Get out of yourself !Get out of this ego.Nothing in this world is just about  you.When its all about you,you will get depressed and not happy.The ego don’t care of other people.The ego care about you and no one else,and thats the problem .The ego want you to be perfect and thats a lie.No one cane ever be perfect.Perfect don’t excist.

So the first step is to give me the truth.Without filters like thoughts and feelings about how you mean people treat you or should treat you.No one will dance the way you want them to dance.Just get used to it.

Are you ready to give me and yourself the whole truth ?

You are dead

No way you can stop now.

Don’t let a little storm stop you

Dont let anything stop you.

Don’t you be that little boy or girl again.

Don’t cry, it will never help you

When was the last time crying did help you ?

Do you know whats really gonna help you ?

When you stand up for yourself.

When you show for yourself and this world that you have balls

When you do what you are meant to be

If you just could listen to the spirit and heart inside of you.

Thats THE REAL ENGINE inside of you.

There is no way i will let you step down.

I am here to back you up

I am here to back up the REAL YOU.

Not the crying boy

Thats not you.

I can see the real you

The power ,the dedicated,the strong one,the wild one,the crazy one inside of you

I know every part of you

Use them now right now !

Stand up and use them.

All parts inside of you.

Let them fight for you

Its time to bed the little boy

There is no way i will give you permission to step down.

You are so close to get your breakthrough

You never know how close you are

Do you ?

I am telling you the truth

Always.

I will never talk to the old you

The old you is dead

So why should i talk to the dead you ?

I will rather use time on the strong great parts inside of you

Thats the only way we can get you on track

Im calling right now on the outstanding parts inside of you

I am actually screaming at them to come out

Why shout at the devil ? I will rather scream and shout at the gold you have.

Its time to manifest right here and now

Its time to scream out from the roof who you are

I am strong !

I am free  !

I have no limits  !

I will not accept nothing better than maximum in all i do !

Do you see ?

I know you just felt much better just to say that.Especially when you say that with your whole body,mind and soul.

Demand this every day

Demand your life tp reach beyond your potential

Do you understand what i mean ?

Do you agree ?

If this dosent  trigger you ,i cant do more for you

So listen !

Its time

Its time to put your feet on what is yours.

Are you ready ?

Hey rock star

You want to change  your life.

You want to take action.

You want to be more successful.

You want to live on purpose.

You need a coach !

I wanna be that coach for you.

My clients are rockstars like you.

Stop procrastinate. Organize your life. Get less angry.
Discover more purpose, motivation, and success.

I don’t just talk about taking action. I will make you take action.

Thats the reason you will get results. You will  move forward and you will grow.

How?

How does coaching make this happen?

First, it increases awareness. We take time to look at your life from the outside.

Second, it gets emotions under control. Emotional management is A MUST to make progress.

Finally, it demands massive action. I insist on making commitments and following through for OUTSTANDING RESULTS.

Coaching is not therapy. I don’t explore your past or try to make sense of your childhood.

We simply start where you are and move forward.

It’s a future focused, mind-blowing process.

Here’s the deal…

I have combined all my tools into a one to one coaching program.

If you want to join and be my coaching client, here’s how it works…

It’s a coaching program designed for clients who want lasting change..

You can enroll by inbox me.

Your life is about to change.

You are the hero.

I’m the guide.

Don’t stay lost.

Start today !

Dont talk so much

Don’t talk so much

Just do it.

You know ,I’m so tired of your big mouth.

When will you take action ? Really.

I mean it.

Now ! Today its time .

Not tomorrow

or Next week

Dont bla bla me.

I have heard this so many times

All your excuses.

Aren’t you tired of your own voice ?

Come on !

Do you wanna stand out or just be like all those around you ?

Actions matter.

Actions separate you from the crowd.

I heard this story so many times

No money

No time

No talent

To old

To young

Come on !

You know the truth !

Do you wanna be inside or outside of the game ?

Do you really wanna stand up ?

Do you really wanna see yourself closing the gap ?

Do you want this world to believe this ?

Then its time to take action

Don’t come with your talk about not being perfect.

Perfect will make you stay forever

Perfect will make you sleep

Perfect will never make you great

Perfect dont exist !

Your made for pushing trough all limits

Your made for conquer all evil in your own life

Stop looking on other people

Stand up for yourself today, and stop talk so much.

You want to do better ? You want to take action ? You want to be more successful ? You want to live on purpose.?You need a coach.I can be that coach for you.Let me help you be a rockstars.Let me help you not just talk about taking action. I will make you take action.You will get results.

How to stop stress

 

 This is sure a busy time of year, isn’t it?

I will write about how to stay in the flow when your schedule is busting , but then I got a better idea after the week’s commitments culminated into a lot of stress.  You know those moments, right?

Im talking about when you realize your chest is tight, you feel fatigued,  mind is racing, and you’re wondering how to “get it all done.”  The idea of inner peace in these moments can be more than a concept.

I want you to start paying more attention.

When stress peaks to new heights and you feel uncomfortably stressed, it’s time to stop what you’ve found yourself in. In this intense moment of stress gently start focus on what you really want.  Make it a fun game.  Easy breathing and a calm center is your prize. Make it to a ritual through the day. Stop op and listen to your heart !

I am the expert

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Just think about this for a minute or two.If you was born awesome , why do you still have all this doubt ? Why bother yourself with this self torture ? Why listen when people straight out say they dont believe in you ? Isn’t this about you listening to much of what going on outside of you , instead of listening to the voice inside of you. When your taking your time, you know the real truth about you. If you cant find this voice inside of you, you really have a problem. Isn it  when you meet challenges, events or  people you can’t control ,this doubt  is coming up ?  And i understand.

Do you know why ? It is because the voice outside us is so strong .Through a day we are meeting so many voices and they all want our attention. So what can we do ? What can you do to stop this attack on your brain ? We cant fly away or escape in any way. I know many people who exactly do that. They escape inside of them self like a  turtle.

You know this intellectual . You know that you need more help than just a chat with your best friend. Chatting with your best friend will just make you feel good in the moment and after a couple of days your back again. And do you know why ? Because your friend is not a expert on what is going on in your brain. You friend is a expert in all your syntoms. He or she dosent know how to deal with the source of your problem. You need a expert who can help you kill the rats and to get out all garbage in your house. You need a expert. Wait, dident you go to a school to learn something from a person who knew more than you  ? It’s the same about your life. Maybe you are a expert in all your syntoms but not in how to deal with the source. Wanna grow and have progress in your life ? Go to a person that knows more about life than yourself.

This is the reason you need a coach. You need to have a person on your side ,who can remind you of who you are. Not remind you of all the failure, or what you don’t have. Who of your friends talk about this ? Who of your friend worry about your language pattern, or what you are saying to yourself or your rituals through the day ? I guess nobody. My experience is that most of our friends wanna talk about what doesn’t work. How hard life is. About the time, people, kids, how tuff life is and spouse that don’t do what or how they want .Do you really think this will help you raise the bar in your life ? Will this help you to get progress in your life ? Will this help you get the life you really want ? This is the reason people don’t get the life they want. They don’t have support from people around them. Or more important : They dont have support from a expert.What you need , is a person that can help you condition your dedication to a new life. Why does every football team or sportsmen have a coach ? Why ? Because a coach can help them get out their potential. A good coach will give them: a personal message, ordeals, and speak directly when homework is not done. A good coach will help you raise the bar in every area of your life.

So how can it be that your still waiting ? What are you waiting for ? Don’t you really want to take the step today ? Don’t  you wanna make it more easy for yourself to get the life you want ? You can do it by yourself .Of course, but i doubt you will get the insight and leverage on yourself like a coach can get on you. For only one reason: To get the best out of your life. To make you live out your potential. If you wanna raise the bar: Let me tell  you: Its not enough to have a brilliant idea or a positive thought now and then. Its about a whole new lifestyle. Its about a new identity that will cost you blood and sweat. And maybe your closest friends will not understand you any more. Then you must ask yourself : Isn’t this my life ? What is most important for me ? Don’t let it go so far that all your dreams one day will  die out.

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